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CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Wed May 24, 2006 10:29 am

Well, after 17 years together, 13 married my wife and I are splitting. I doubt we will get back together. It's been to long in the making.

My days are stressed and long and I cna't wait to move out(next week or so). I've got myself a good job with a company that is huge so I'm not worried about money.

I have a few friend both online and offline that help me out. Thanks goes to you guys.

I tell ya, don't ever stay in a marriage that isn't meant to be or even a relationship. It's not worth it. I've wasted at least 8 years because of it.

Anyways, just thought I'd share this bit of news.

De Rigueur · Post by **De Rigueur** » Wed May 24, 2006 10:56 am

Sorry to hear it. Hope things work out for you.

DKnight · Post by **DKnight** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:18 am

Sorry to hear the news, Merlin. Best of luck to ya, bud. Hope everything works out for you in the long run.

Unix · Post by **Unix** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:38 am

Good luck with everything.

Xamindar · Post by **Xamindar** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:49 am

Sorry to hear that Merlin. Just like to say that I always enjoy reading your posts. Good luck to you.

Sulaco · Post by **Sulaco** » Wed May 24, 2006 12:05 pm

Sorry Merlin, been there done that. As I recall thinking, the faster you can get it behind you the better dewd, run like you know what...

Sully

Kilarin · Post by **Kilarin** » Wed May 24, 2006 12:06 pm

Ugh. Sorry to hear it. Hope things get better from here.

WarAdvocat · Post by **WarAdvocat** » Wed May 24, 2006 12:17 pm

Definately a bummer! Sounds like you're on the right track, I wish you the best of luck.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Wed May 24, 2006 12:27 pm

Thanks guys, I should be in my new appt within 1 week. Just have to buy a new bed now.

Ferno · Post by **Ferno** » Wed May 24, 2006 1:09 pm

ouch, what a blow.

good luck dude.

Top Wop · Post by **Top Wop** » Wed May 24, 2006 3:30 pm

Sorry to hear that. I wish you the best of luck.

dissent · Post by **dissent** » Wed May 24, 2006 9:15 pm

This may be hard on you, amigo. Be kind to yourself.

Canuck · Post by **Canuck** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:05 pm

I'm sorry to hear that CDN_Merlin, I have a sugestion after obvserving my friend's recent marriage breakup.

Reach an amicable settlement before approaching the lawyers. He paid and she paid half of an $8,450.00 total bill from both lawyers.

The rest went to them and the kids.

Otherwise you all are going to give away all your assests to legal fees, time in Court, and grief.

If she has any reasoning whatsoever she should see the benefit of this approach, and if not for her but for the kids financial health as well.

Nuck out.

Lobber · Post by **Lobber** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:43 pm

That's why I'm still single. I have a zero percentage failure rate on male female relationships.

Canuck · Post by **Canuck** » Wed May 24, 2006 11:54 pm

Dude I was going to post something then realized it was .net

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Thu May 25, 2006 4:44 am

Canuck, well she dropped the \"I want to settle this in court\" crap last night. We have no kids (thank god). Still gonna be messy and complicated.

Isaac · Post by **Isaac** » Thu May 25, 2006 5:06 am

sucks when the law gets involved.

Canuck · Post by **Canuck** » Thu May 25, 2006 12:53 pm

Yup no doubt about it, but the sooner you can all reach an agreement to sharing assets the less grief you are exposed to.

Remember things are things and that's all they are. Try not to get emotionally attached to things.

With that thought in mind use it to look at it as not things being lost, but things being converted into your share of net cash at the end.

Use that cash to invest in your life and start anew.
A long process but try to be fair to each other.
Good on her to drop the Court thing too.

Still sux to see it all go though

But remember that the new thing smell is cool too!

Good Luck

Wareagle · Post by **Wareagle** » Thu May 25, 2006 6:20 pm

Good luck Merlin

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 4:02 pm

Update:

Well, I'm now in my new apartment. Have almost everything done. Need to return the bedroom blind since it doens't fit my window type.

Also have to install the A/C in the living room.

Let the healing begin.

Zuruck · Post by **Zuruck** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 4:10 pm

Well, you know you're going to hell now right?

On a side note, good luck, if you're in the Chicago area, we'll get a beef sandwich and some pabst.

d3jake · Post by **d3jake** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 6:20 pm

Sorry, I'm kinda late to the...er...
Sad to hear it. I know I'm repeating what they've all said, but I hope you get over this quick. If your ex has any shread of logic in her she'll settle out of court...
Hope things come out alright in the end.

Kiran · Post by **Kiran** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 6:23 pm

Wow merlin, that sucks you have to go through this. Best of luck with your new life.

You're a neat dude

Dedman · Post by **Dedman** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 6:24 pm

If you ever want to race GTR shoot me an email. Good luck on your new start.